Whether you're the mother of the bride or the mother of the groom, you'll have many special moments on the big day. All eyes will be on you as you walk into the ceremony and when you're announced at the reception. And what about all those pictures? You may not have shopped for a dress this important since your own wedding, so here are some tips to get you going.
Communication is Key
Talk to the bride. Get a sense of her vision for the day. Think of the wedding as a big production -- you have one of the leading roles. Find out from the bride (the director) how to dress your part.
Get Going
Start shopping as early as possible, but not until the bride has chosen her gown and the bridesmaids' dresses -- then it's time for you to begin your own search.
Make a Match
Look at what the bride and the bridal party are wearing and follow their lead as far as formality.
Find Your Hue
Decide what color you want to wear. Start looking with several color preferences in mind -- but stay away from white or any shade thereof. Neither of you will want to look like you're trying to steal the spotlight. So for best results, stay away from white, cream, and ivory. Moms will also want to rule out black -- that whole mourning thing. The best mother of the bride and mother of the groom dresses compliment the mom's coloring and don't clash with the wedding colors (no, the dress doesn't have to match the bridesmaids').
Compromise with the Bride
A good idea is to have the bride send you wedding-magazine pictures to get an idea of what style she has in mind. If she'd like you to wear a style you're not happy wearing, let her know and do your best to compromise. It's her day, but you have to feel comfortable.
Talk to the Mother of the Groom
The mother of the bride should consult with the mother of the groom when she's selected her dress, informing her of color and formality. The mother of the groom doesn't have to buy something in the same shade, but it should echo the skirt and sleeve length.
-- Cindy Hobson
Photo: Manuel Llaneras
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