by Julie Weingarden Dubin

Julie Weingarden Dubin is a been-there-done-that bride with two beautiful weddings under her bustle. In this excerpt from her book, How to Plan an Elegant Second Wedding, Julie explains the benefits of being a second-timer today:

  • You don't have to head over to city hall and have a hush-hush ceremony so as not to draw attention to the fact that this isn't your first wedding, like brides of previous decades did.
  • You don't have to risk losing friends by forcing them to wear matching dresses with bows, taffeta, or crinoline.

  • You are high-tech. Not only can you save time by doing wedding planning research on the Internet, from checking out designer gowns to locating unique reception locations, but you can communicate with your vendors via e-mail. You may not have had an Internet connection at the time of your first wedding. Heck, the Internet may not have been around. You played a lot of phone tag trying to call vendors from work on your lunch hour or sneaking calls every time your boss left for meetings. Just think of all the vendors you won't have to meet with in person. You can e-mail some of your questions about their services and weed out the ones who don't fit your vision or budget. I often communicated with my second wedding photographer through e-mail. It was easy and quick, and it's great to have a paper trail. You don't run into problems later when you have everything in writing. The photographer can't say he didn't get the list of people on your
    "must-photograph" list.



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