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Q. What is appropriate attire for a junior bridesmaid (age 12)? Should she wear a dress that matches the older bridesmaids' or one that matches the flower girl's?
A. Junior bridesmaids generally dress in something similar to the bridesmaids rather than the flower girl. Since she's 12 (almost a teenager), she's not going to want to match some little kid! You don't have to put her in exactly the same dress as the other women -- depending on what they're wearing, it may not be age-appropriate -- but she should wear a dress in the same or a similar color and of the same length (i.e., if they're wearing floor-length gowns, she should, too).
Q. My wedding isn't for a while, however, one of my bridesmaids betrayed my trust. When I confronted her, her attitude upset me. My fiance thinks that we should ask her to leave the wedding party. I'm torn. How does one remove a bridesmaid politely?
A. There's no polite way to take back the question, "Will you be in my wedding party?" In this case, however, it doesn't sound like she was very polite to you either! If you're reluctant to remove her from the wedding party because she is a friend you've been close to for a while -- despite what happened -- talk to her again about this issue. Let her know that it hurt you that she betrayed your trust, and her attitude when you confronted her hurt you even more. Talk to her about it and make sure you're both clear about what's going on, and then make a decision. If you must part ways, do so gently. Good luck!
