What to Do about Undesirable Gifts

Let's face it: Every married couple has at least one "white elephant" wedding gift. Think about your own parents' collection: That uglier-than-anything vase that only comes out of the attic before Aunt Bea arrives on Thanksgiving. Or the polyester, floral tablecloth from your dad's college roommate that your mom has been using to cover the dog's bed for years.

Happily, there's an easy way to limit the number of wedding gifts you receive that simply aren't your taste: Register for what you want. Most guests appreciate your taking the guesswork out of the gift-buying process. After all, their ultimate goal is to buy something they can be assured you'll enjoy. Have your attendants and families spread the word about where you're registered. (In bridal shower invitations -- only -- it's even acceptable to enclose a card citing where you're registered). If you'd prefer money in lieu of items, you can also have your families tactfully make your wishes known. Today, many banks will even set up wedding registry accounts into which guests can directly contribute to a specified cause -- a mortgage, the honeymoon, a new car.