I have decided that I do not want to have any attendants.
My mother is making a huge stink about this. Claiming I will be all alone in front of everyone and I will have no color scheme without bridesmaids.
Is it wrong for us to walk in together and not have attendants?
I am having a family ceremony, 30 people, and it is taking place inside overlooking a golf course. It's not like we will be in a huge cathedral or anything. I was just going to use my bouquet as inspiration for my colors at the reception.
Is my plan so terrible?
--sillygrrl2003
Your plan is wonderful! Most brides with small weddings either don't have attendants or they just have one person, so tell your mother that not having bridesmaids is completely acceptable for today's weddings, and that it's what you prefer. You're absolutely right that the color scheme can come from your bouquet and your decor at the reception -- you don't need a lineup of bridesmaids to provide color for your ceremony. If your mom still has a problem with it, just tell her that you have too many women in your close circle of friends, cousins, sisters, etc. and you wouldn't want to choose between them.
There's no need to change your plan because your mother has an idea of how things should be. Just stick to your wishes and distract her with another portion of your wedding plans. And tell her that
her gown color is part of the attraction at the wedding as well.
--Sharon Naylor
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