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3. Not printing the rules of the house in the programs. Some houses of worship forbid flash photography, or bare shoulders, or uncovered heads. So make sure your program explains the rules of the house, as a way to respect where you are. And it is okay to print something about taking your crying baby outside: "As much as we love all the children in attendance today, we ask that you take your child out to the gardens if they're unable to sit still for the length of the ceremony. Thank you." Notice the wording is 'sit still,' not 'keep quiet.' You don't want to offend parents, but you've made a request that should be honored by all guests.

4. Having surprises or too-casual comments in the ceremony. Brides and grooms have fought over the pranks and jokes that one thought would be a funny surprise, like writing 'Help!' on the bottom of the groom's shoe or the groomsmen holding up scorecards ranking the quality of the first kiss. At an informal wedding, or if you agree to these 'funny moments' that may be fine, but if you've planned a formal ceremony and there are rules in that house of worship, you don't want someone's idea of a joke to ruin your day. So pre-warn anyone who could be the offender.

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