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Is This Seat Taken?

"Our reception was in a very fancy restaurant we'd rented out for the night. People had to choose entrees in advance and seating was carefully chosen. But we had a guest show up without RSVPing."

Tiger says there should be a point person, such as the wedding planner or maid-of-honor, who deals with emergencies like these. That person should first consult the bride: Should the unexpected guest be accommodated or asked to leave? Normally, a restaurant or caterer will prepare a certain percentage of food over the guaranteed amount, and it's likely an extra chair can be added somewhere. However, if the setting is intimate and there is no room, or desire, to squeeze in the unexpected guest, then the point person should let the guest know there isn't a spot for him at any of the tables. "He or she should be apologetic about it. 'I'm very sorry, but we didn't get your RSVP, so we figured you weren't coming,'" Tiger suggests.

Chicken, Fish... or Ham?

"A family member we aren't close with brought her own sheet music to the reception. Then she proceeded to tell the band that she was going to sing a song and asked them to accompany her. When the band leader told us about this, we were in shock. We agreed to let her do it for the sake of peace, but it would have been nice if she asked us herself before the wedding."

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