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We're seven weeks away and I'm frazzled! I'm having trouble staying focused at work, with calling around to confirm appointments and trying to figure out why the maids' dresses aren't here yet. It's not conflict or stress though, it's just the myriad "to do's". I feel bad because I know my family is sick and tired of wedding talk and I'm not paying attention at work. My coworkers and boss are being terrific, but I know that can't last. They understand that some of these things have to be done during business hours, which we keep at my job too. How do I NOT obsess about the wedding? I'm organized and on a schedule, but it seems like I'll never catch up. I cannot NOT think about the wedding!
-- shariheck
Don't worry so much; everything is going to turn out fine. First of all, put the bridesmaids in charge of figuring out why their dresses didn't arrive. It's their problem, not yours. And delegate some of the other responsibilities to your groom.
There's plenty you can do yourself to firm up wedding plans AFTER business hours when you won't feel so frazzled. We suggest you fax confirmation letters to all of the vendors you hired. Outline your specific instructions and any other details you need to convey. Once you see your plans concrete, in writing, you'll automatically feel better. Follow up with one phone call to each vendor and then lay off until the week before your wedding. Remind yourself that you hired these vendors because they're professionals and you can trust them.
Feel better already? Good. Let us know if you've got specific situations that need ironing out.
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-- shariheck
our experts say:
Dear Shari:Don't worry so much; everything is going to turn out fine. First of all, put the bridesmaids in charge of figuring out why their dresses didn't arrive. It's their problem, not yours. And delegate some of the other responsibilities to your groom.
There's plenty you can do yourself to firm up wedding plans AFTER business hours when you won't feel so frazzled. We suggest you fax confirmation letters to all of the vendors you hired. Outline your specific instructions and any other details you need to convey. Once you see your plans concrete, in writing, you'll automatically feel better. Follow up with one phone call to each vendor and then lay off until the week before your wedding. Remind yourself that you hired these vendors because they're professionals and you can trust them.
Feel better already? Good. Let us know if you've got specific situations that need ironing out.
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I;m getting marrie din 4 days and i'm so worried that i have forgotton something important and we have had a lot of stressful situations fr example the dress shop sent the wrong gown so had to buy a completly new one oh so stressful however having come out of this situation I feel we may be getting somewhere. I have organised everything myself as I hate asking for help however it will be all worth it on saturday when our friends and loved ones gather to whitness us say I do Good luck to everyone about to be married and remember to enjoy the planning of your day as it lasts longer than the day itself xx
--Posted by Little Miss Excited, Scotland
I;m getting marrie din 4 days and i'm so worried that i have forgotton something important and we have had a lot of stressful situations fr example the dress shop sent the wrong gown so had to buy a completly new one oh so stressful however having come out of this situation I feel we may be getting somewhere. I have organised everything myself as I hate asking for help however it will be all worth it on saturday when our friends and loved ones gather to whitness us say I do Good luck to everyone about to be married and remember to enjoy the planning of your day as it lasts longer than the day itself xx
--Posted by Little Miss Excited, Scotland
I have felt a lot of pressure since I entered the marrying world that I should only feel excited and super happy for my wedding day. I do look forward to it but I'm more preoccupied thinking of my fears. Here's my story: we dated for 6 weeks and then got engaged. He had to leave me 3 months later to go to his home country for work. We are now apart for almost 4 months and see eachother again only 3 days before the wedding. On top of that all, I am wrapping up my job and home and moving to a new country.
We will be wed in front of mostly his friends and family who I don't really know. I will not have parents present at the wedding and only a few friends and sisters. I find the living apart drives me crazy. We manage to talk every day for almost one hour which is excellent. I love talking to him. I think it's very hard to be going through such crucial times apart and especially before coming in to unity.
It's funny when I summarize all that I am going through...I am thankful that I am asking more serious questions than who is my dj and will I have my nails done before I walk down the aisle. I am seriously assessing our future together. We have some big challenges to overcome before even getting married. When I speak with him I feel that anything and everything is possible so this will all work out without any problems. However, my foundation is still being rocked.
I am marrying a wonderful, thoughtful, sensitive, fun man. My biggest challenge is to keep up my relationship with him despite my fears. The last thing I want is to let all those things above erode us. I guess I just have to capture those fears and control them. He wants to understand my fears which is sometimes difficult to articulate. I think I am still answering them for myself. I keep trying to share my emotions and affirming my love for him. All the while trying to stay strong for myself.
--Posted by anonymous
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